'I'm proud I went to a SEND school – it's my strength'

Alex PopeBedfordshire, Hertfordshire and Buckinghamshire
Summit for Grange Toby Hayward, running up a hill, with a drone behind him, there are trees in the background and he is wearing a brown T-shirt. He has short dark hair and a beard. Summit for Grange
Toby Hayward attended Grange Academy in Kempston, Bedfordshire, from Years 7 to 11

When Toby Hayward tells people he attended a Special Educational Needs and Disabilities (SEND) school from the age of 11 they seem shocked, he says.

But Toby, 27, now works in IT, has a child and a partner and is proud of his education – so much so that he has completed a tough charity challenge to raise funds for his former school.

Toby, from Stagsden, Bedfordshire, attended Grange Academy in Kempston, after his mother "fought" to get him a place.

Now he wants others to know that having dyslexia, autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and ADHD, is his "strength", and says the school gave him the "foundation to where I am now".

Toby Hayward Toby, as a child, in a school uniform, with a yellow top and black jumper. He has short hair and is smiling and looking straight at the camera. Toby Hayward
Toby was 11 years old when he started Grange Academy, which was then known as Grange Specialist School

Toby, who now lives in Toddington, says before he started at Grange Academy in Year 7, he felt like he was "falling behind".

"Then I was going to school to survive, so moving to the Grange meant I was finally able to learn."

BILTT/Grange Academy Toby, holding a goat in his arms, with a red lanyard round his neck, wearing a black jumper, with a beard and short curly hair. School buildings, that are blurred are behind him. BILTT/Grange Academy
Toby said education is a "marathon, not a sprint"

Although he is now proud and happy to talk about his education, he says at the time "we never advertised we went to a special needs school".

"It's not something that we ever shouted about, but as I've got older, I've realised that it's a strength," he says.

"It's shocking to some people. I've realised it's not a negative, it's definitely a positive, but that's not something that, myself or my classmates felt at the time."

He says he wants pupils at any SEND school to know that "no matter what setbacks you've got in life or where you're coming from, you can still make it".

"You should always be proud of who you are," he says.

"I think the most important thing is your attitude to life, not your conditions; not your setbacks.

"Don't try and limit yourself because of what you think you're limited to."

Alex Pope/BBC A school farm, complete with three goats, wooden apparatus, buildings and grass areas, with some dry patches. Alex Pope/BBC
The school said the farm offered pupils hands-on learning and supported their emotional and social wellbeing

At the end of August, he took part in his own ultra-endurance event, Summit for Grange, through parts of the Lake District to raise funds for the school's farm, which was created to help pupils emotionally and educationally.

After training for a year, he covered 51 miles (83km) in 16 hours.

The school is part of the Bedford Inclusive Learning and Training Trust (BILTT), a local SEND-specialist multi-academy trust dedicated to supporting children and young people with a wide range of abilities and SEND needs.

The trust said the farm was expensive to run and Toby's donation had paid for a new pygmy goat and covered other essential expenses.

BILTT/Grange Academy Three people, all in a row, looking at the camera, all with lanyards round their necks. The woman on the left has long blond hair, is wearing a brown top and black trousers. The woman next to her has a black gilet on, brown jumper, and dark trousers. Toby has his hands crossed in front of him and is wearing a black top and black trousers. The woman to the right, has long dark hair tied back, is wearing a brown top and blue jeans. A table and three blue chairs are in front of them and they are by a large window. BILTT/Grange Academy
The school held a special celebration day in February to thank Toby for his fundraising efforts

Rachel Timms, its headteacher, said: "The farm is such an important part of our school community; it supports pupils' wellbeing, helps them grow in confidence and gives them practical experiences that prepare them for life beyond school.

"This funding ensures we can continue running the farm and offering these invaluable opportunities."

Summit for Grange Toby stands on a mountain top with rocks, wearing shorts and a jacket. You can hardly see his face as he has his hood up and sunglasses on. Summit for Grange
Toby said he plotted his own route, which involved running, cycling and climbing

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